When women come to me for relationship advice, they many times say something along the lines of the following:
“Where are all the great guys? I can’t seem to meet any.”
“It seems like all I meet are losers or guys that just don’t do it for me.”
“I get bored easily with guys and I always move on.”
Think about that first question for a moment. Is the real problem that there aren’t enough great guys out there or is the problem actually something you may be doing to sabotage yourself?
I know many great guys and I meet them on a daily basis. It’s not that there aren’t any good men out there, but it’s the things that most people do that they aren’t even aware of which causes them to fail.
Of course you’re a catch and you should have high expectations, but there is a reason why you aren’t finding the kind of men you want. I have discovered in my many consultations with women a pattern that causes them to not meet the kind of men they want.
First, they attract the kind of men they don’t want. If you are looking for a particular type of guy, where do you usually go to try and meet them? Do you truly know the kind of guy you want and that is right for you? If the answer is no, then it’s time to do a little soul searching and figure out what it is that you want in a man. This is easier said than done, but I can help guide you to the answer.
Also, do you spend a lot of your time with guys that aren’t good for you? Remember that every minute you spend with the wrong guy is a minute you could have spent going out and meeting other men who are right for you.
Secondly, it is very likely you are not currently acting like the kind of woman they are looking for. This isn’t your fault, it is just something you have been taught and that you will need to change if you are going to be successful.
A few questions you should ask yourself that are keys to meeting the right guy and keeping him are:
Do you know what these great guys want in a woman? How do men generally perceive you?
It is important to know that you are giving off the right signals. If you’re looking for a relationship with a serious man, and you have pictures all over your Facebook profile of you clubbing in skimpy clothes, you probably aren’t going to meet the right man for you.
Another common problem is that maybe you aren’t meeting any men. Sometimes you are just super busy with work, maybe you’re shy and don’t like to go out. Well if you can’t go out and meet men, there is an unlimited amount of match making sites and services out there where you can meet your dream guy with your same situation. In order to use the tools of the web you will need to answer many of the questions that are above and with a little help and the proper information you will succeed.
Dan Silverman,
MDC Executive Dating Coach