Hello Ladies,
If you ever plan on going to a speed dating event, follow these simple guidelines to make the most out of your experience.
Women’s Speed Dating Dos and Don’tsDon’t Dump Your Emotional Baggage - Don’t talk about your ex boyfriend. Don’t talk about how you don’t trust men. Don’t talk about why you can’t meet men. Don’t bitch about your job, friends, school, etc. There are men out there for that and they are called therapists.
Reward Good Behavior - The way you game men is through their ego. If a man thinks there is a chance you might reject him, he won’t try to pursue you. If you want to make a guy chase you, reward anything you would consider good behavior by indicating your interest or complimenting him. For example, if he shows genuine chivalry towards you, compliment him on it.
Smile - Dating is not supposed to be serious. A smile is sometimes all that is needed to make a guy want to see you again. It shows friendliness and comfortability.
Don’t Interview Him - He is not applying for a job and neither are you. Instead of qualifying each other, try to find similarities and common interests which could lead to a second date.
Don’t Make Him Do All the Work - Playing hard to get too hard can sometimes backfire and only make a guy think you’re insecure or boring. Try to have about equal talking time, but definitely allow the guy to lead the conversation. You want him to work for you.
If You’re Not Attracted, Be Pleasant - If you’re with a man you’d rather not be sitting with, the least you could do is be pleasant about it. Most people come with friends, and if the guy you happen to like is friends with a guy you were rude to, he’ll let him know.
Don’t Be Negative - There is nothing that could kill a date worse than negativity. Don’t complain, don’t talk down about yourself, and don’t talk trash about the other speed daters. Keep the conversation positive and fun.
Keep Eye Contact - Eye contact is a powerful way to build a sexual connection. Don’t look around the room while you are talking. Keep eye contact while talking to your date, but don’t stare. Staring can be really creepy.
Sample Questions for Women to Break the Ice: What’s the wildest thing you’ve done? What are you most proud of about yourself? What’s your favorite part of a woman’s looks?
(I recommend asking different forms of these types of questions.)
Hope you have a fun experience!
Dan Silverman,
MDC Executive Dating Coach