Most men, even players who are good with women, don’t qualify or screen women to meet any kind of standards other than physical attractiveness. It’s important to qualify a woman to fit your criteria for three reasons.
1. It says all the right things about you when you are choosy with women. She will see clearly that you aren’t desperate since only men who have options can be picky. This raises your attractiveness and puts you in the position of the chooser. A very attractive trait in a man.
2. The more a woman works for you, the more she will value you. Let’s face it, anything we can achieve easily we take for granted. By qualifying her and making her work for you, she will appreciate you and value you more than if you don’t.
3. Having standards means less bullshit in your life. It also means you will be selectively putting the kind of women you want in your life. If you love Hispanic women who dance and like to go out like I do, don’t waste your time dating women who don’t meet this criteria. You may be throwing out would be opportunities, but if you’re out there practicing and meeting women on a consistent basis, you’re preventing wasted time and saving your time for the really worthy ones.
There are many ways you can qualify a woman. One way is to directly ask her if she has the traits you are looking for. You don’t need to be obvious to the point that she knows you are trying to screen her. Communication with a woman is always better when it’s subtle. To learn more about how to screen women, schedule a consultation.
Dan Silverman,
MDC Executive Dating Coach