Sometimes you just don’t feel like going out or maybe most the time you feel this way, but you know you have to in order to get good at this. Force yourself to go out.
Remember, this feeling is associated with years of negative conditioning. You may have spent your entire life feeling anxious as a reaction to going out and having bad experiences when you met new people. You won’t be able to fix this feeling in only one night. It may take a couple months of repetition and some rewiring of your emotional circuitry.
When you are out and you feel low, there are a few ways to combat this:
Throwaways
You can walk up to a set and intentionally blow yourself out. This helps to relieve tension and show yourself that you can’t take life so seriously. Common throwaways are:
“Hey, I’m looking for a girlfriend and I can’t find one. Would you like to fill in for the position?”
“Hello, I’m out to pick up hot girls, do you know where they are?”
“Hi! (pause) what? Were you expecting me to say something else?”
Warm Up Sets
Warm up sets are similar to throwaways, but the objective is simply to get in a chatty mood. It takes approximately three warm up sets to get into state. Common warm up approaches are:
“Hey, how do I get to (name of a place)?”
“Hey, how is everyone?”
Or any other opener.
Stay in set for as long as you want. The objective is to get chatty. Keep your mouth moving as long as possible and don’t take too much time between warm up sets.
Primers
If you are out with a wingman, push him as hard as you can. Then let him push you even harder. Keep pushing each other until you feel that rush of aggressive energy and then grunt and roar loudly, even if there are other people around. Most people don’t care anyway. This is extremely effective, especially if you are feeling so crappy that you can’t even do throwaways or warm up sets.
Sign up for a boot camp and we will show you how it’s done in person.