Hey Jester, what’s up man, I’ve been following your newsletters closely…and I can really say that its really helped my game. You are the jedi master of all the jedi’s that call themselves jedi in the jedi universe!! hahahaha ok.. so here is my question… What can I do if I’ve opened a girl up in the street..and I start with a conversation, and she just cuts me in the middle of me talking and tells me that “I’m sorry I have to go I’m running late and I have to be somewhere.”?? Can you give me some really cool ass kick ass line to reverse her “running late” mindset.. and have her eating out of my palms???
K. from Miami, FL
My Reply
LOL! My friend, the way to solve this problem is to avoid it in the first place. Your opener is weak and that’s why she is blowing you out. Yes, it is possible that she really is late and has to go and is still attracted… but the way you know this is if she says she’s late but lingers there hoping that you’ll stop her and ask for her number. Did she do that??? Something tells me that the answer is pretty obvious.
Don’t open seeking rapport…… unless she’s unattractive. You will look just like the other 15 guys who approached her that day. You must hook her with the opener, give a false time constraint, and then attract her. Now remember to calibrate how in a rush she looks. You don’t need to run a thirty minute sarge on the woman. Sometimes just your body language, vocal tonality, and confidence will display enough value to get the girl at least interested even before you open your mouth. Remember to smile on the approach and have a carefree warm vibe. Don’t look like a predator on the hunt. It really doesn’t matter so much what you say, it’s how you say it. If you focus on your inner state, you will be able to naturally think of a line that is congruent to your personality. Hell, you can even make DeAngelo’s, “Hi, I know it might seem weird for me to just come and approach you like this, but I think that you are absolutely beautiful and I wanted to find out what you are like, but unfortunately I’m in a hurry, do you have email?” As long as you deliver this line slowly, confidently, warmly, and with no awkwardness or fidgeting, you will get that email and possibly the number if you ask. Make sure to run more comfort building by talking to her through a messenger service and/or phone before you invite the woman out because she still doesn’t know you and will likely flake. Now go get her! Thanks for the email.
Dan Silverman,
MDC Executive Dating Coach