Lately, I hear from students and friends telling me that they had a bad night and it screwed up their state or that they aren’t getting where they want to be fast enough.
We all go through periods where we feel like nothing is happening for us. Sometimes we’ll go out to sarge and not a single set opens for us. We think to ourselves, “I’ve been studying this stuff for so long and so hard. I go out so much and practice. Why is this happening? Am I even getting better?” Sometimes we go home feeling this way.
Don’t let it get to you. This kind of crap will always eventually happen to you. Let me give you the gift of a reframe when this kind of thing happens to you again.
It is moments like these where success is right around the corner. I’ll go so far as to say that the moments of epiphany happen when nothing goes your way for a long time.
To illustrate an example of this, a friend of ours went out sarging with us months ago. The entire evening, not a single set opened for him. We sarged from 10PM to 2AM and nothing. He looked defeated and totally out of state. He said he didn’t want to be a burden and was willing to go to Purdy’s Lounge because we still wanted to stay out.
He stayed committed.
He continued sarging at Purdy’s Lounge past 2AM and still nothing. He continued telling us, “It’s okay, I’ll keep going.” He sat down about 3:30AM and stayed there. The club started dying out and we were soon to leave, when all of a sudden, we see him talking to a very pretty girl. He gamed her for a half hour and wound up taking her back to his place. Amazing.
On the road to mastery, you will experience the same tests that our friend went through. Had he not stayed out and stayed committed, he would never have met that wonderful girl at 4AM in the morning. The mastery curve follows the same path. A moment of rise, followed by a long plateau, then a slight drop, and another rise. The process repeats itself over and over. So the next time you see yourself in a bad place, feeling like you are getting crappier, realize that the high rise is very close.
Walk through the fire and keep pushing.
Dan Silverman,
MDC Executive Dating Coach
“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
-Michael Jordan-