Hello friends. I apologize for the lateness of this newsletter, but I recently became single again and needed to adjust. That is why this newsletter is dedicated to how to get your life back together following a break up. Follow these simple steps and your transition into singlehood will be a bit less intense.
1. Reconnect with friends and family. Friends are great in times of heartbreak. They are our support system that keeps us afloat in rough waters. The day of the breakup and the weeks following, you should spend time with close friends and family. Though breakups suck, they do a great job in building stronger bonds between your family and friends. They will help you feel better when you are down.
2. Go out. Spending the weekend alone in your room will make you miserable. Now that you’re single, go out! You’re going to be doing this a lot more often. You do not need to rebound right away if you aren’t ready for it, but get accustomed to partying and meeting new people. You are building a new life as a single person. You will make new friends and build your social circle. This is especially important if most of your friends were your ex’s friends.
3. Focus on yourself. You have to stop thinking about your relationship and start thinking about yourself. Set some goals you would like to accomplish. Take up hobbies you used to do as a single person. Start exercising, get a make-over, redecorate your home, or even begin a new career.
4. Stay busy. Though depression and sadness is inevitable, the more you stay busy, the less you will obsess over the breakup. It’s healthy to release your sadness and grieve, but when you lock yourself in a closet and eat ice cream, stare at anniversary pictures, and recite letters from your ex, you’re making yourself suffer.
5. Let bygones be bygones. The most important thing to do is to accept what happened and move on. Do not regret what happened because you can’t change the past. Learn from your mistakes and mature. Hating your ex can be an easy way to get over the person, but if you have any intentions on staying friends, it will not work if you harbor resentment. Remember, forgiveness benefits you, not the transgressor. Forgiveness and acceptance is the last and final step that must take place before you can fully recover from a breakup.
Dan Silverman,
MDC Executive Dating Coach