Hi Jester.

I would like help on resolving a situation I encountered recently, and would like to correct in the future. I was in a situation where I was talking to a group of 3 girls. I had a specific target but all 3 were giving me IOI’s. I talked to my target first, then her cousin (fairly hot herself) and then a mutual friend to both of them. I was demonstrating value by having energetic conversations. The 3rd girl was easily the best conversationalist of the 3, and took initiative to outmaneuver the other 2.

My problem was I had little to no interest in girl 3. Compounding this, the girls had apparently talked amongst each other and decided that girl 3 liked me the most and the other 2 would bow out.

How do I keep obstacles from hijacking the pick up of my target?

Sincerely,
Stripper

My Reply

I really feel bad for guys like you. It really sucks to have three women fighting over you, doesn’t it?

The answer to your question is to control the frame. The difference between the AFC(Average Frustrated Chump) and a PUA (Pick Up Artist) is that the AFC thinks that getting the girl is entirely a luck factor, but the PUA has the skills and control needed to make luck for himself.

“Don’t care about being rude and talking. Of course, society program, will always make you lose your gift of speech, and you will have no clue what to say. That way, you will not get laid, and society program wins, you lose.”
Ranko Magami

Onto your set… remember, if you allow luck to get the woman you want, you will get the worst option. You mustn’t allow them to choose who you should date. Run the group, be the alpha, and don’t allow the girls to converse with themselves over who should have you… be assertive and go for the girl you want. Make that decision for them. Don’t be embarrassed to straight up #close the woman in front of her friends. That’s a very alpha thing to do. But make sure you let the woman see how much her friends love you before attempting this. Most of the time, women value the opinion of their social circle more than they value their own opinion. They will be encouraging her to answer your call and constantly ask “How are things going with that cute guy?”

So to recap… control the frame. Command the set. Have fun chatting them up. Don’t allow them to completely hijack the set and your frame. If you feel you are losing control, begin a story or routine. You don’t have to dominate every aspect of the group and conversation, as long as it is going the direction you want it to go.

Now, if you are having problems with obstacles male or female, depending on who it is, you have different strategies. If it is a person who opened the group to steal away from you, plow through and ignore them or AMOG them and blast them out of the water. If the person is someone in the group like a friend or cousin, this is trickier. You must win them over before you can game your interest. You can’t ignore them or AMOG them because they are someone who the woman actually respects. Running game and getting the entire group liking your company is almost a necessity before you can work the woman you like.

Don’t be afraid to crash, burn, and totally mess up the set by furiously attempting to dominate the set. Working outside of your comfort zone is the only way to get better and get socially calibrated. You’ll eventually learn when you’re trying too hard.

Dan Silverman,

MDC Executive Dating Coach

“Don’t care about being rude and talking. Of course, society program, will always make you lose your gift of speech, and you will have no clue what to say. That way, you will not get laid, and society program wins, you lose.” -Ranko Magami