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I want to take this time to warmly welcome
all newcomers to the Miami Lair. It's real tough going at this process alone, but when you have a group of people with the
same goals in mind, to keep you motivated, to not let you fail, and to teach and learn from, it makes the journey a whole
lot easier.
Some of you I may still not have met or talked to yet. If you are one of these people, please introduce
yourself to the community.
For those that attended Thursday night's free bootcamp, thank you for joining. Please feel
free to send me comments or suggestions on how it can be improved or what you liked about it. The student/instructor ratio
will be at most 2/1 instead of 5/1. This is definitely important since I was only able to really instruct Cooldown. For the
rest of you, I'm sorry I didn't give you personal feedback, I hope that it was still an enjoyable experience. Here is Thursday
night's field report. Enjoy.
FIELD REPORT
After all the boys came, we went inside the conference room and introduced ourselves and what
we wanted out of pick-up and the community. Everyone seemed to be on the same page. After an hour and a half of seminar and
discussion of inner game and strategy, we all left to coconut grove to begin the field work. Most of us had to separate so
in my group, it was just Kingpin, Cooldown, and I. We wasted no time and began training Cooldown right away with cold approaches.
We took turns opening and showing how it's done. I opened a lone woman by simply asking directions, ran some attract and left
with a high five. Then Kingpin did the same with a two set. Cooldown followed up with a set and asked directions. However,
I think that teaching people to ask directions as an opener is a bit counter to what needs to be done, so we opened the next
set with a real opener. It went okay. Our three warm up sets were finished when we got to Mr. Moe's. I saw the rest of our
group inside but we couldn't get in because Cooldown was not yet 21. Fuck. So we left to get him some pizza and told the rest
of the group where to meet us when they were done with drinks.
While Cooldown feasted, Kingpin opened a 3set with the
"My friend is going on a date" opener. He ran game while Cooldown and I sat and watched. All of a sudden, one of the girls
started teasing me and I joined in on the pick up. Kingpin and I continued running game, building attraction. One of the women
began showing me many IOIs. She was asking me all sorts of questions. So, wasting no time, I went straight for qualification.
I asked her if she danced salsa and she said she did. I acted like I was being won over feigning interest as if I couldn't
resist salsa dancers.
"No way? Really? Are you seriously a salsa dancer? Guys? Is she really a salsa dancer??"
The
whole set was now focused on me qualifying their friend.
"Yes she is!"
"That's it! She's seen all my cards.
I can't talk to your friend anymore. This isn't good, she's bad for me! I have a girlfriend."
Then they all go...
"Ohhhhh
I can't believe you said that! Only white guys say that. Latin men never say that."
"Yeah, well in actuality, when
I say that I have a girlfriend, girls actually start climbing all over me."
"Maybe that's why you said it in the first
place!"
"Yeah right, you wish."
Now that the set is clearly interested in us, I try to go for a bounce and suggest
we go dance salsa at a nearby club where I know the owner. Clearly, I waste no time in escalating this set as fast as possible.
They refuse at first, but after Kingpin and I ran a bit more comfort building (about 3 more minutes) I got up and began pulling
them saying, "Let's go." Holding two of the women in each arm. Cooldown was still far from finished eating, probably from
the entertainment of watching Kingpin and I work. So I tell him to meet us there. But instead he comes along with the unfinished
food as he watched us run set.
As we continued down the road, Kingpin and I continued running game while kino escalating
with arm and arm and hand holding. As we arrived to the Cafe Feelings with the two girls on my arms, there was Mr. GQ waiting.
With total shock and a look on his face that couldn't believe this dorky Jewish boy wearing a ridiculous jester's hat had
two cute women on his arms, Mr. GQ greeted us laughing his ass off and saying, "Let's go, this place sucks." So we all moved
to a bar close by with the rest of the group. I continued to work the salsa dancer girl until it was time for them to go and
#closed her. This woman will be joining us on our Saturday night outing at Bongos.
After a bit of drinking and shooting
the shit with the guys, we went to Senior Frogs and talked game. I was exhausted after the 3set that Kingpin and I controlled
for so long, but still managed to do one more set with Cooldown. I told him to open a 4set that had a chode-guy, an 8, and
two 6s. His opening was strong, but I could see that his energy level was too low and he wasn't smiling and truly enjoying
himself, so I could see the set starting to die. I came in and intercepted him to bring the group back up and engaged the
women he was talking to, running game, and showing him the proper energy level he needs, I kept finding excuses to whisper
in his ear telling him things to tweak in his game, "Smile more, get more energy, tease the fuck out of them." I would come
in and mostly steal his set but then leave when I saw the set was fully engaged and let Cooldown take charge. All of a sudden,
the pissed off chode dragged away half the set and left two of the girls talking to Cooldown. We totally AMOGed this poor
guy, when in reality, we should have befriended him. The two girls kept inviting us to where they were going but we stayed
still and wished them goodbye. As we left to our car, we opened a final set with a total bitch. She was the queen of bitches.
An "Alpha Male" as Kingpin described her. She really phased Cooldown and I. Pissed us off. But Kingpin, as usual with his
mastery of inner game, reminded us to never take that shit personally and to understand that her anger and bitchiness is a
defense mechanism for her frustration. This woman obviously suffers and does not have a happy life. Don't be angry at her,
feel bad for her. It was great seeing such an improvement in Cooldown's game that night.
END OF FIELD REPORT
Jester,
MDC Executive Coach
"Love women for who they are. Don't ever hate them. Understand that If
you lived through what they have to go through every single day and having periods, you'd be emotionally unstable too."
-(Joke)Kingpin-
Do you have any questions, success stories, or
insights that you'd like to see in this newsletter? Keep it brief, email them to jester@miamidatingcoach.com and one of our coaches will answer them personally.
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