Now that you have her attracted to you and she meets your qualifications, it’s on! Some people feel that this is the time to get the number, when she is at a high point. This way, it leaves her wanting more of you. I agree that you should leave at a high point, but remember what we covered in the chick logic section of the dating guide? Most women are very emotional creatures and make many of their decisions based on the current mood they’re in.
She may be feeling great about you right now and after you leave she will think about you. Don’t forget though, she will continue to be hit on after you are gone. Any guy she talks to may change her emotional state. She may meet a guy who is an idiot, which is very likely to happen, and feel frustrated going home, not remembering you. Even if you are the last guy she sees before she leaves and goes home intrigued by you. She will wake up the next morning in a totally different state. You call her up the next day and leave a message on her phone. Now she thinks, “I met this guy at a club. He’s cute, but I don’t know. I don’t really know this guy. He’s a club guy. It was a fun night, but I don’t know. I don’t feel comfortable. I’ve got 7 other guys who I’m comfortable with and that I think are cute so maybe I’ll talk to them instead.”
Before you get the number, and if you have the time for it, you must build an emotional connection with the woman you’re interested in the night you meet her. You don’t want her to be in the previous scenario. Don’t be the cute one night fling club guy when you’re looking for a great woman. Play solid game.
You create an emotional connection by first displaying your identity. This is done through storytelling packed with emotions. Tell her stories of your childhood, interesting times in your life, and anything that makes you you. For example, I talk about how I traveled to Spain with an ex-girlfriend and caught an infection in my belly button that I almost died from, the first moment I received a standing ovation at a show, or the story of my hippie kindergarten teacher back in Georgia.
As you tell your stories, allow her to relate, respond, and reciprocate. The more she talks, the more she emotionally invests in you, and remember what we discussed in the previous section? The harder a person works for something, the more they value it.
The next step is to find similarities. Find subjects you have a common interest in with each other and talk about how you feel. People generally feel more connected and have rapport with people who are similar.
As you build an emotional connection, make the rapport get deeper and deeper. You may start with questions like: What was your first date like? Have you ever been to Europe?
Eventually build it all the way up to more intimate questions such as: What was your best sexual experience like? Have you ever slept with a guy you met the same night?
Progressively build the questions as you go. Don’t be afraid to go overboard. Women like men who are bold, but do it in good taste. Women hate feeling disrespected.
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