The Love Switch – LIPS Scale
Quite a few men are willing to have sex with just about anything physically attractive, but when it comes to a quality relationship, men do screen for more than just looks. This is especially true when it comes to the kind of quality men that all the women desire.
To trigger a man’s love switch, you need a high score on what I call the L.I.P.S. scale. L. I. P. S. stands for looks, intelligence, personality, and sanity.
Most women only focus on their looks to attract men and you can’t blame them. A man will not be interesting in getting to know a woman, let alone approach her, if he is not physically attracted to her. However, looks alone will not flip a man’s love switch. Some of my female friends like to disagree with me. They will say that a female friend of theirs is gorgeous, insecure and/or totally bitchy to men, but always has men chasing them just because they are so stunningly beautiful.
But see, how many of those men truly want her for a long term relationship or just want to get laid? And the guys that want her for a relationship, how many of them are confident in themselves, emotionally stable, or are great in a relationship? Do you really want a guy who would put up with a bitchy attitude or want to be with a woman who hates herself, or is shallow enough to only care about looks? A woman who only has beauty going for her will flip the wrong men’s love switch.
It is much more important about the quality of the men you attract rather than the quantity. If you have been relying on just your looks to attract men, you’re only high on the L in the L.I.P.S. scale. Many women fall under this category. They only improve their physical beauty while ignoring their self esteem, personal creativity, conversational skills, attitude, personal goals, and mental health . The stereotype for the type of woman who has a high L, but a low I and P, is the “hot chick” that men see walking down the street with her butt hanging out of her miniskirt, talking loud with butchered English, and only talking to guys drinking expensive cocktails.
Though this example is highly exaggerated, it illustrates a point. When men see this kind of woman, their love switch or hearts aren’t moved. Something else might move, but that’s about it. He can have sex with a woman like this, but he cannot respect a woman with only one thing going for her and respect is a prerequisite for any kind of deep emotional relationship.
If you are reading this right now, you are probably not as low on the I and P as our girlfriend above since you have the intelligence to improve yourself and the personality to not take yourself too seriously.
Lastly, I placed the S. in this scale and it is the last of the four. It is the determining factor of a long term relationship. Just because a woman is gorgeous, intelligent, and sweet, doesn’t mean she doesn’t have some severe issues that prevent her from having a healthy long term relationship. You don’t necessarily need sanity to flip a man’s love switch, but if your sanity effects the quality of the relationship, your relationships will never last for the long term. Some women have such bad issues that they scare men off. If a woman’s sanity is broken, so will her potential relationship. She will sabotage an otherwise great relationship.
All four categories can be improved upon with a little guidance. Even intelligence can be improved by becoming more educated or getting involved in creative activities. Looks and personality are definitely areas that a dating coach like myself would be more than happy to help you improve upon so that you can become a more complete woman, so consider signing up for dating coaching or fashion consulting! Of course, I’m not a psychologist so I can’t completely help you with S. But my father is and he’s the best! You can check out his website at Wade Silverman.
Your Dating Coach,