Have you ever said one of the following complaints to one of your female friends because you don’t understand man language?
“He is so aggressive! I try to let him know that it turns me off and he keeps doing it. It makes me feel like he doesn’t respect me.”
“I just want him to make decisions already. I hate making decisions all the time. I tell him to think of something to do and he always says, ‘Whatever you want to do, honey’.”
You probably wonder why he doesn’t understand what you are trying to tell him.
Do you know why he doesn’t understand you? This is because you aren’t speaking man language. Men and women communicate very differently. Several years ago when I began to study the male/female dynamic in-depth, I began to understand the patterns in the way we communicate with the opposite sex.
In women language, they give off many subtle signals through body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice. Women are masters at using intuition and can detect the slightest change of mood.
Men however, aren’t wired that way from a biological standpoint. Men speak directly to each other. What they say is what they mean. Trying to send signals to a man who hasn’t gone out of his way to understand women language is like sending signals to a wall. Men are far more simple in their communication style. In fact, a majority of the work I do with men on how to attract women is teaching them how to read and speak in sub-communication and subtlety. If you want a guy to do something, just tell him directly. Don’t expect him to read your body language or pick up subtle cues, since he probably won’t be able to.
Also, it’s useless to try and analyze “what he means” when he tells you something. Let’s say for example he tells you he wants to date other women one week, and the next week he says, “I miss you and want to be with you.” It’s not that he has mixed emotions. There’s nothing to analyze. He’s just full of BS and wants to have his cake and eat it too. He’s just not that into you. It’s possible for a man to have confused feelings, but this is very rare and it’s only if you make him feel powerful emotions. You can usually tell what he is thinking and feeling because his actions speak louder than his words. That’s some food for thought. If you are having trouble speaking man language and would like first class training in communicating with men, let’s start you on a dating coaching program.
Your Dating Coach,