Phone game is an absolutely necessary skill to turn pick ups into actual dates. The reason being is because flakiness is a huge hurtle that most men face and with solid phone game, you can even turn weak pick ups into actual dates.
The main objective of the phone is to make plans to see each other again right? Not to a woman. A woman uses the phone to actually chat. Women absolutely love talking on the phone. You may hate it, but don’t think that just because you hate it, doesn’t mean they do. So don’t ever feel the negative belief that you are wasting her time by calling her. You’re not. You’re the best thing that’s happened to her all day. Do you know why? BECAUSE YOU GOT GAME.When you call her, no matter how smooth or shitty your initial pickup was with her, treat it as if you just approached her. Be aware of whether she lacks attraction to you or comfort. If you’re not sure, just go through the basic steps of a pickup. Use an opener and get her engaged. Ask her a question. Once you have her engaged, run some attract material. Tell her a “TOTALLY AWSOME STORY” that happened to you recently. Continue running game until she starts asking you questions back. If she starts asking you questions, you no longer need to run the high-octane attract material. You can actually have a cool comfortable conversation and get to know her. Get her to suggest or infer a meet up, or suggest one like it was a last minute though, like it’s no big deal. Whenever you set up a day2 with a woman, always make sure it’s as low key and low pressure as possible. I’m going to list some ideas and techniques you can use when you are talking to a woman on the phone.
If she doesn’t answer her phone, leave a short, quick non-needy message. Most guys leave long ass messages and drag on. Don’t ask her to call you back. You can say, “Hey, it’s Jester, take care.” Be ambiguous. Another strategy is to use callback humor and say something that will remind her of when you first met, or just say something extremely funny. Use inside jokes that you had when you first met. The idea behind this is that this will access her emotional memory during times when she experienced high buying temperature with you. Also, inside jokes automatically assume rapport with someone. She instantly feels a jolt of attraction and comfort all by listening to your voicemail.
Another way to leave a voicemail is to bait her. “Hey HB, it’s Jester! Oh my god! Call me back! Dude, I totally ran into someone and they told me that you actually…” (click) I doubt I have to explain why this works. If you need me to, just email me firstname.lastname@example.org.
If she picks up or calls you back
Use a standard opener.
Transition into C&F, funny storytelling, any kind of attract material will do.
She begins asking you questions.
Take it as an IOI and assume she feels sufficient attraction for you.
Slow down the energy of the conversation to a smoother feeling of comfort.
Continue getting to know each other and building an emotional connection for as long as you like.
She begins to talk sexual/romantic with you or she hints or suggests a meet.
You can use David Shade’s material and have phone sex with her, or you can plan a meet right then and there. The sooner the meet, the better. The longer you go without talking to each other, the more likely she will flake on you. If you must make plans for more than 2 days away, call her between then just to keep the comfort levels up.
Here are some routines and techniques you can use to solidify the meet
Style’s Eliciting Values
Future projections: Future projections are when you say things like, “I could just imagine going to Southbeach and you and I would walk together on the sidewalk. You’d be so plastered and embarrass me in front of everyone. I’d probably have to carry you in my arms.” The idea is to get her to imagine the scenario in her head. A woman never does something that she hasn’t already fantasized about.
I’m going to repeat that.
A woman never does something that she hasn’t already fantasized about.
Here are some of my personal routines
Jester’s The Three Wishes Routine
You ask her to imagine that you brought a genie in a bottle to her house and gave her three wishes, what would they be? Let her fantasize and elaborate the good emotions that she feels.
Jester’s Magic Carpet Routine
You pretend like you have a magic carpet and you’re on your way to sneak her out of the house and ride a magic carpet with you just like in Aladdan. Ask her where she would go if you could take her anywhere. Implant fantasies and scenarios of you two going to magical places and being romantic with each other.
Jester’s Superpowers Routine
Ask her if she could have one superpower, what would it be. Then tell her what yours would be. Tell her that it’s flying, so you could go and fly to her house and pick her up. Then transition into the magic carpet routine.
These routines will produce deep rapport so try to plan a meet for that very night. As time goes on, her state will wear off.
So, here’s a quick rundown of the factors that you need to be aware of when calling a woman
- Fantasize meeting you
- Low pressure meet
- Emotional states
- Making plans soon.
The next newsletter is coming soon. Thanks for reading guys. This is the kind of practical material we teach at our workshops.
MDC Executive Dating Coach
“’Should I wait three days before I call her? Should I leave a message?’ Guy’s, call her when you feel like it! Does a high value guy care about these things?”