As you go out practicing pick up and learning all that you can about attraction, be sure not to lose yourself to it. I’ve met many guys who got into the community and totally lost their souls, becoming entranced with the PUA lifestyle, partying every day, and living life as though their only purpose is to try to get as many one night stands as possible.
If you live this way, you’ll live a shallow life, see woman as sex objects, and suffer in other areas of your life like health, education, wealth, and so much more. It’s great to have passion, but there is a fine line between passion and obsession.
Don’t fall for what a lot of the gurus try to tell you, especially the ones that claim to be the greatest pick up artists. They claim that they are happier than they ever have been, but if you’ve read The Game by Neil Strauss, you’ll see exactly the opposite. They only say these things because they are trying to make a sale.
Most people become obsessed with pick up because of the addictive feelings of validation that women give them. This is not healthy, makes your inner game suffer, and inhibits your development as a mature person.
If you’re in your early twenties, living with roommates who go out picking up girls with you every night, what kind of value do you offer to people? What will you tell a woman when she asks you what you’re passionate about?
It’s okay to go out a lot and meet lots of women as long as you spend time fulfilling your obligations and responsibilities. However, I’ve personally seen people take this way too far, and it only hurts them because they become super creepy. Can you see yourself living like this when you’re 45?
So, how do we learn this art without becoming a creepy obsessed pick up artist? Devote some time in your week to self-development. Spend a few days a week playing sports, getting good at your profession, learning about science, taking an art class, or anything that you’ve always wanted to do. You can bring the women you meet to your events, and they will get to know you as a deeper person rather than the “club guy.”
Keep It Real,
Dan Silverman,
MDC Executive Dating Coach