This just in: Stripper’s Friday night field report. If you don’t have the patience to read through it, make sure you read the “What I Learned” section. It is very helpful for those of you new to the scene.
Kingpin and I were walking towards the club to meet up with Fearless. Not 5 minutes into our walk, KP says to me, “We’re going to open those two over there.” He told me the opener he was going to use and as we crossed the street to the two girls in the parking lot of a small apartment building. I already knew it wasn’t going to work.
KP walks up and says “Hey girls. My friend here is meeting a girl here tonight for a date. Do you have any advice for him to make the date go well?”
They looked at each other and looked at each other. The one on the left said, “I don’t know.”
I was preparing my condolence speech for KP with the reasons why the sarge didn’t work when a split second later my frame got flipped on its head. The girl to our right said, “Let her talk about herself.” I said, “Let her talk?” “Yeah girls like to talk about themselves. Don’t be talking about yourself all night.” The girl who at first “didn’t know”, pipes in, “Be a gentleman”. All of a sudden, the both of us were in a conversation with two cute girls I had been ready to pack it up and call it an A for effort throw away approach.
We bid them a good night and were on our way.
When we got close to an outdoor bar, a 4 set was walking by. KP said, “Hey girls”, and they kept walking by. He turned around and said, “My friend here is going on a date and he needs a female’s opinion on how to make things go well.” The last girl that passed suddenly turns around and walks back towards KP to listen to what he had to say. The other three girls stop, stand in place, and look at the girl who was talking to KP over their shoulders like (Come on let’s go). She told them to wait a minute and explained the situation. I totally thought those girls were all going to walk right passed us without saying a word, but KP was committed to seeing the sarge through and his “I need advice for my friend” frame was stronger than their “We are going to just be on our way” frame.
Within a minute, they were peppering me with questions. “Where did you meet?” “You just want to fuck her don’t you? Ha Ha Ha…” They were swarming around each other and would hardly let me get a word in edge wise as they espoused their ideas and joked around at the same time. One of the girls was saying to the others, “Let him explain.” Now all of a sudden, I realized why they call this stuff chick crack. I was a little upset that we had lied and said the date was tonight instead of tomorrow, though I had little doubt they would have come with us to hang out. They were having so much fun.
After we left the 4 set, we went into the club and looked for Fearless. On the way through, KP tried opening a 2 set and they were unresponsive and rude. I was thinking, “Here we go, club girls with attitude.” We found and talked to fearless who was with his girlfriend. Within half a minute of leaving was KP opening a 6 set (4 girls 2 guys). He was having animated conversation with 2 of the girls. I thought ,”Wow! The same guy with the same approach gets shot down by a couple of bitches, and has cuter women accepting him and laughing within the same 5 minutes. This taught me not to judge my sets until I have approached them. Sounds like common sense but something I had to unlearn.
I hadn’t opened any sets. I was uncomfortable with the crowded place and told KP I wasn’t feeling it. He said to me, “Go approach that girl over there on the wall. She’s standing by herself.” I hesitated. He said, “Do you want me to do it?” I said, “No. I’ll do it. As I walked up to her I had no idea what I was going to say. “Hey! You look like you’re bored. Aren’t you having fun?” She explained herself and was fairly open. I strongly felt I could have pulled a number close on her if I knew some routines. As it was, I ran out of material and had to abandon the sarge wishing her a good night.
I went up to a 3 set after that and said to the girl leaning on the wall. “You look bored”(ßBy the way I know that’s a shitty opener.) She said, “That’s because I am bored.” Then she looked away like, “This conversation is over.” Two minutes later I see her boyfriend come up and make out with her.
KP and I went into the Salsa room and he said, “Go up to that girl over there. She’s dancing with herself. Oh wait never mind. It’s too late. A guy is approaching her.” The guy leaned in and she dismissed him on the spot. He said, “Now’s your chance. Go ask her to dance.” I looked over at her with her arms crossed. I said to KP. “She has closed body language and she just shot that guy down without giving him a chance.” KP said, “So what? Don’t worry about it. Go get rejected.”
I decided KP was right. I was caring too much about the outcome. I walked across the floor, came up to her, and said ,”Would you like to dance?” She still had her arms crossed. Now this is an interesting freeze point because this is the first time I’ve had a phase shift. I had this expectancy. I gave her this authoritative look and put out my hands, and low and behold she took them and the salsa dancing was on. She had this dead look on her face the entire time. I could have busted on her for it but I was concentrating too hard trying to think of the next salsa turn I would use. After the dance I said, “Thanks.” She turned and left without saying a word.
A short while later I was up against the wall observing as KP went up to a HB by a table. I saw her become animated and his sarge was obviously going well as it lasted at least 15 minutes.
KP waved me over and introduced me to his new “friend”, Barbara. I said my hello, had a little small talk, and then KP number closed her. She commented to him that most men are morons but that he had game. That reinforced my frame that most guys shoot themselves in the foot.
KP’s next approach was a girl sitting at a bar stool facing out towards her friends on the dance floor. They were all bonafide 9’s. KP was encouraging me to go talk to them. I replied to him, “They just want attention.” This was a negative frame I know but I’ve got some attitude problems towards girls I need to work out. KP left the set with his signature high five.
The next set I tried to use a little MM. The 2 set consisted of a girl that looked like a hot stripper the other was a girl that needed to put away the life time supply of Oreo’s. I went up to the obstacle and said, “You two look like your having more fun than anyone else in here!” She gave me a short, get lost reply. I went to find KP to joke how I had gotten shot down by the fugliest girl in the whole club.
What I learned:
1. It’s good to go out with other wings because they motivate you at the times you don’t feel motivated yourself.
2. Never pre-suppose just because a girl has turned down every other guy in the club. Your results won’t always be the same. Pulling a girl who shot down everyone else is a nitrous boost to confidence.
3. When you go up into a set, expect them to be responsive. This will help your non-verbal aura to be congruent with confidence.
4. Get in a few approaches when you first enter a venue. I noticed by my forth approach I usually start feeling comfortable, and start going into sets without second guessing myself.
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Fight Another Day
MDC Executive Dating Coach
“You see my friend over there? You won’t believe me when I tell you this… but he’s a professional stripper. He gets laid like a rock star!”
-Jester- Wing Rules: Accomplishment Intro