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QUESTION

Hi Jester.

I would like help on resolving a situation I encountered recently, and would like to correct in the future. I was in a situation where I was talking to a group of 3 girls. I had a specific target but all 3 were giving me IOI's. I talked to my target first, then her cousin (fairly hot herself) and then a mutual friend to both of them. I was demonstrating value by having energetic conversations. The 3rd girl was easily the best conversationalist of the 3, and took initiative to outmaneuver the other 2.

My problem was I had little to no interest in girl 3. Compounding this, the girls had apparently talked amongst each other and decided that girl 3 liked me the most and the other 2 would bow out.

How do I keep obstacles from hijacking the pick up of my target?

Sincerely,
Stripper from Miami

MY REPLY

I really feel bad for guys like you. It really sucks to have 3 girls fighting over you, doesn't it?

The answer to your question is to CONTROL THE FRAME. The difference between the AFC(Average Frustrated Chump) and a PUA (Pick Up Artist) is that the AFC thinks that getting laid is entirely a luck factor, but the PUA has the skills and control needed to make luck for himself.

Onto your set... remember, if you allow luck to guide the set into getting your specific girl, you WILL get the warpig. You must stay in charge of the set. Run the set, be the alpha, don't allow the girls to converse with themselves over who should have you... TAKE the girl you want. Make all the decisions for them. Don't be embarrassed to straight up #close your target in front of her friends. That's a very alpha thing to do. But make sure you let the target see how much her friends love you before attempting this. GIRLS VALUE THE OPINION OF THEIR SOCIAL CIRCLE WAY MORE THAN THEY VALUE THEIR OWN OPINION. They will be encouraging her to answer your call and constantly ask "How are things going with that cute guy?"

So to recap... control the frame. Command the set. Run your routines. Don't allow them to control the set and the frame. If you feel you are losing control, begin a story or routine, or go run a jealousy plotline.

Now if you are having problems with cockblockers male or female, it depends on who it is. If it is a cockblock who opened the set to steal from you, plow through and ignore them or AMOG (Alpha Male Other Guy) them and blast them out of the water. If the cockblock is someone in the set like a friend or cousin, this is trickier. You must win them over before you can game the target. You can't ignore them or AMOG them because they are someone who the target actually respects. And remember again...GIRLS VALUE THE OPINION OF THEIR SOCIAL CIRCLE WAY MORE THAN THEY VALUE THEIR OWN OPINION. Running game and getting the entire set attracted to you is almost a necessity before you can work the target.

Don't be afraid to crash and burn and totally fuck up the set by furiously attempting to dominate the set. Working outside of your comfort zone is the only way to get better and get socially calibrated.

Jester,

MDC Executive Coach

"Don't care about being rude and talking. Of course, society program, will always make you lose your gift of speech, and you will have no clue what to say. That way, you will not get laid, and society program wins, you lose."

-Ranko Magami-

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