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Bonjurno
y come estai! Welcome to another addition of my wack newsletter where I, the Jester, the smartest human being alive and sexiest
Jewish boy on earth, tells you, the little people, the knowledge that you shall pass down to your grandkids when you're sixty
years old. I swear I'm not high... just bored out of my mind...Whatever...
Many guys have a lot of trouble with flakes.
For those of you who are primarily trained on DYD AKA David DeAngelo's stuff, you'll see that you can get a woman's phone
number in less than 3 minutes. In fact, it's quite easy to get many in one night. But if you have been at this level, you
will realize very very few of them become real Day2s.
Why is this? Why do women give away their phone numbers if they
aren't interested or attracted? And even when they are, why do women seem so into you the day you got the number, but never
answer their phone or return your calls?
The reason is quite simple.
But before I get into the reason. I want you to take a look
at this formula.
(A+C=%D2)
Attraction+Comfort = The percent chance that she will go on
a day2 with you.
The REASON why girls flake is because you either did not create
enough attraction or you did not build enough comfort.
LACK OF ATTRACTION
Women give their numbers to men who are persistant because they realize it's the only way to get rid of them. David
DeAngelo has many lines to use when a woman won't give her number. "Don't worry, I'll only call you 50 thousand times a day
for the next 6 years. It's okay."
This is cocky/funny and generates attraction... but understand when she refuses to give you her number, it should be
an indication that you need to continue the sarge and KEEP BUILDING ATTRACTION. Don't just go for the number. Numbers are
not DATES.
For some of you, just getting numbers is still great. It's good practice, but eventually you must jump to the next
level from nukber hunting to SOLID GAME. If you can consistently get numbers, practice on attraction intuition, continue the
pickup, and make sure the girl WANTS to give you her number. Don't ask for it until you are sure or if you have no more time
to continue. When you get really good, get her to offer her number without you ever asking.
LACK OF COMFORT
The other, more confusing, reason why girls will flake EVEN WHEN THEY LIKED YOU, is because of a lack of comfort.
Remember. Girls are state dependent. Unlike us, their emotions guide their daily lives moment by moment. A woman can feel
massively emotional for you the day she met you, but after she sleeps on it and wakes up the next day, her state will no longer
be highly emotional, and you become the 60th random cute guy she met that month.
This is why you must build at least SOME comfort and connection before you get the number and/or ask her on a day2.
Ways that you can build comfort is by slowing down the ballbusting and allowing time for her to get to know you,
kino escalate, tell her interesting stories that tell a lot about you, run comfort routines like the cube and the question
game, use future perception by making her picture you two hanging out together somewhere and describe in detail what would
happen.<-- This one is the most powerful. Don't build comfort until she has given you 3 IOIs (Indicators of Interest).
The
reason for building comfort with her is so that she can feel an emotional connection, that she feels she now knows you and
you're not just some random guy she met at the club. That you are someone she can trust. A girl never wants to feel like a
slut and if she hangs out with a guy who she is attracted to but knows nothing about and has no emotional connection with,
she will feel slutty talking to you. She will not meet up with you if she feels uncomfortable or too pressured. The more comfort
you have built, the more pressure you can put on her.
While talking on the phone with a girl, the objective should be to build enough comfort to get her to hang out. Because
she is not in state when you call her, treat the phone call like a fresh sarge. Either run a quick story or routine to get
her back in state, or for you advanced guys, use callback humor by saying something funny you said that will put her back
into state the night she met you. Once you feel enough comfort has been built, which can take more than one phone call and
can only be sharpened through field practice, then you can suggest a meet.
If she is insisting on the meet before you do and has a high buying tempurature, assume that she has a lot of comfort
and invite her somewhere near your house alone with you. Have her meet at your place and go out to as many places as you can
on your day2. The more venues you visit, the more she will feel like she knows you. On your way back, have her come inside
to check out your stamp collection or whatever.
Remember, if a girl shows any signs of hesitancy, treat it as a lack of comfort. You can either build more over the
phone (don't spend too much time on this or you will become LJBFed (Let's Just Be Friends)) or offer a much lower pressure
day2.
If a woman calls you last minute and tells you that she has to work late or gives you BS. NEVER TAKE IT PERSONALLY
AND FREAKOUT! It's a game. Women don't realize or even think they are being bitches when they do this, so don't treat them
like it. Only when you are actually in a sexual relationship and she gives a shit about you, should you punish a girl for
this type of behavior. Yelling at them or making them feel bad will not get them to hang out with you. They will associate
negative emotions with you. It will scare them off most of the time.
When this happens, simply reframe, tease her about how much of a scardy cat she is, and make the meeting seem less
pressure than she originally thought. Tell her that you can't spend all night with her anyway and only about an hour or so
because you have this and that to do. Tell her you were hoping she'd bring friends. Whatever you can say that will make it
less pressure for her. You can still build comfort with all of her friends around. Not only that, if you win her friends over,
they will constantly ask her about how things are going with you two. When she wants to be alone with you, she will make it
very obvious. Oversell the place where you are supposed to be meeting her. "This place is SOOOO MUCH FUN! Get your little
ass over here! Holy shit, you wouldn't believe what's going on over here!" You can tease her for being flaky and that she
owes you a drink for telling you last minute. Even if she still doesn't show up... it's okay. Make plans another time, but
remember that you need to build more comfort and also make the day2 less pressure. Have her go grocery shopping with you because
you have no other time to see her that week.
Some girls are just flaky in general, no matter how attracted or comfortable they are with you. These women are yours
to either deal with or next. Personally, in my experience, if you've spent more than 4 hours building comfort with her on
the phone and she still flakes on you or won't meet up with you, she's probably crazy and you probably shouldn't waste your
time.
Well that does it for today. If you have any questions, don't bother me... I mean, feel free to email me and ask.
:-D I love you guys and I think you're all sexy as hell.
Always and Forever Straight,
Jester
MDC Executive Coach
"Women play sex to get love. Men play love to get sex."
Diamonds for Gold: -Unknown-
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